Custody: Well, I have a lot to say about this, but I don't want to say it. X hasn't seen the kids in over 6 months now. I didn't hear from him since the beginning of March until the end of August. It seems to me like he's making lame attempts at trying to see the kids. He wanted to see them unsupervised so he could take them places. I said no because he hasn't seen them in so long and I want to stick as closely as possible to the custody order. Then he invited them to his son's first birthday party, with the option of me leaving them there for 3 or so hours or I could stay, too. Again, I said no. There's no way I wasn't going to drop them off in a house full of people they don't know for a half-brother they don't even know they have, and I have enough self-respect not to subject myself to that lion's den full of his family and friends who probably despise me right now. Not to mention, his significant other is to have no contact with them.
No way, no how.
So now he wants to have his best friend and his wife supervise at their house. He's going to drive at least half and hour north to their house for this visit, which is an hour or more for me to get there. I asked him if he could choose a closer location and he said that they wouldn't drive to the area where he lives and if gas is an issue, he'd give me $5. This ended up being a no as well. I don't think I should be expected to drive any farther than where he lives, which is 30+ minutes away.
I met with an attorney a week or so ago and he said that what I'm doing is okay, as long as I leave it open for him to see them. That was before his best friend supervising was brought up. I know it's not the only option he has, so I think I'm still doing the right thing.
So to make a long story short, I think he's going to see them eventually, but he has to stop suggesting these seemingly ridiculous ideas.
House/Cats: We've found some weird things about our house and there are definitely things that need to be fixed, but we both still love it. Hubby said that it still suddenly hits him that it's our home. I get the same thing, but it's about him being my husband.
The kitties are doing well and they seem happy. I thought the black and white cat was a goner because he got really sick and stopped eating. I think he poisoned himself. He started throwing up every time he ate and eventually stopped eating altogether. He lost a lot of weight and became extremely lethargic. I couldn't take him to a vet because that was when we messed up with our bills and we had no money. I decided to try giving him some canned chicken and water and over two or three days he got his appetite back and is now back to being healthy and happy and playful and is eating his regular kitty food just fine. And Hubby has to keep his stuff cleaned up in the basement. He was leaving out adhesives and solvents and I'm thinking that's what tuxedo kitty got into.
I think I'm just about finished...on to part 3.
