Showing posts with label budget/money. Show all posts
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Friday, January 18, 2013
Saturday, April 21, 2012
Super duper fabulous week
This week has been pretty darn fantastic.
I've gotten to spend lots of time with BF and his son (three family nights this week!). We also had our brief date night on Monday and BF will be coming over this evening.
I took off work on Wednesday because I had a child support conference. I was so nervous because I hadn't seen X since October and I really didn't want to have to talk to him. So while I was getting ready, I told God that I was putting it all in His hands. I was going in there with the papers that I was required to get together and I wasn't going to try to sway the result in any way.
It went way better than I thought it would. I didn't see X at all. I don't know why. I got there first and I was taken into a little room and the really nice lady who took the case informed me that he had filed to have the order transferred to MD, so that's why I was there, and she said she'd go run my numbers and then put his in when he arrived and see what happens. When she came back in she said he was there, but he never came in and after we were finished, he had already left.
Not only did I not have to see him, the kids are also getting more than was originally ordered in PA even though I have a much higher income and X is still on unemployment!!
I don't know how that happened. He also owes a good amount in arrears.
Nothing went the way I thought it would and that's a good thing. It sure beats getting $4.02 per month.
So because that turned out so well, I have determined that I can likely move out on my own and know that I can still provide for the kids, even if I have to make sacrifices for myself.
I told this to BF and ever since he has talked about moving in together.
We had talked about this probably 2 months after we started dating when he first asked me about it and I told him that I don't believe in it. It has to do with a lot of things: my religious beliefs, my values, my family, my kids, etc. He seems to want to live together to determine if we would make it if we got married.
I told him that given what I know about his past and what I know about him now (which I think is a lot), if I feel like I need to live with him to feel like I can marry him, then I don't love or care about him enough to get married to him in the first place. I'm sure there would be certain things that he does that would drive me crazy, but I am certain that he is a terrific guy and I love him more than I can explain and there is no little quirk or habit that he has that I wouldn't find out about until we lived together that would be a deal-breaker.
So anyway, I explained it to him again and he says he understands and he's just teasing, but he said it's something he thinks about on a daily basis. I suppose that's a good thing.
In other news, I've been keeping up with my workouts. It takes over an hour now to complete all five (abs, butt, pushups, legs, arms) and I do them any day I have some extra time, which ends up being just about every other day. I made the mistake of weighing myself this morning...
I've gained 2.5 pounds in the last two weeks!!!! Ahhhhh!!! I wasn't expecting that, especially since my clothes are starting to fit better and I have a definable waist now. I'm trying not to freak out about it and I keep reminding myself that muscle weighs more than fat and I've lost a bit of fat and I know I've gained some muscle.
I still haven't told BF that I've been doing it. I know he'll tell me that I don't need to and then I might stop. Or he'll think that he needs to start working out more because then I'll make him look bad (I think he needs to relax a bit more, to be honest...he's always buzzing around, wearing himself out).
I feel really accomplished when I've exercised and it gives me an adrenaline rush something. It just feels good and I'm proud of myself for keeping it up for this long on my own. Not to mention the health benefits.
Well, I suppose that's all for now. Kiddos need lunch and I have lots of stuff to do before BF gets here in a few hours (yaaaaay)!
Until next time...
I've gotten to spend lots of time with BF and his son (three family nights this week!). We also had our brief date night on Monday and BF will be coming over this evening.
I took off work on Wednesday because I had a child support conference. I was so nervous because I hadn't seen X since October and I really didn't want to have to talk to him. So while I was getting ready, I told God that I was putting it all in His hands. I was going in there with the papers that I was required to get together and I wasn't going to try to sway the result in any way.
It went way better than I thought it would. I didn't see X at all. I don't know why. I got there first and I was taken into a little room and the really nice lady who took the case informed me that he had filed to have the order transferred to MD, so that's why I was there, and she said she'd go run my numbers and then put his in when he arrived and see what happens. When she came back in she said he was there, but he never came in and after we were finished, he had already left.
Not only did I not have to see him, the kids are also getting more than was originally ordered in PA even though I have a much higher income and X is still on unemployment!!
I don't know how that happened. He also owes a good amount in arrears.
Nothing went the way I thought it would and that's a good thing. It sure beats getting $4.02 per month.
So because that turned out so well, I have determined that I can likely move out on my own and know that I can still provide for the kids, even if I have to make sacrifices for myself.
I told this to BF and ever since he has talked about moving in together.
We had talked about this probably 2 months after we started dating when he first asked me about it and I told him that I don't believe in it. It has to do with a lot of things: my religious beliefs, my values, my family, my kids, etc. He seems to want to live together to determine if we would make it if we got married.
I told him that given what I know about his past and what I know about him now (which I think is a lot), if I feel like I need to live with him to feel like I can marry him, then I don't love or care about him enough to get married to him in the first place. I'm sure there would be certain things that he does that would drive me crazy, but I am certain that he is a terrific guy and I love him more than I can explain and there is no little quirk or habit that he has that I wouldn't find out about until we lived together that would be a deal-breaker.
So anyway, I explained it to him again and he says he understands and he's just teasing, but he said it's something he thinks about on a daily basis. I suppose that's a good thing.
In other news, I've been keeping up with my workouts. It takes over an hour now to complete all five (abs, butt, pushups, legs, arms) and I do them any day I have some extra time, which ends up being just about every other day. I made the mistake of weighing myself this morning...
I've gained 2.5 pounds in the last two weeks!!!! Ahhhhh!!! I wasn't expecting that, especially since my clothes are starting to fit better and I have a definable waist now. I'm trying not to freak out about it and I keep reminding myself that muscle weighs more than fat and I've lost a bit of fat and I know I've gained some muscle.
I still haven't told BF that I've been doing it. I know he'll tell me that I don't need to and then I might stop. Or he'll think that he needs to start working out more because then I'll make him look bad (I think he needs to relax a bit more, to be honest...he's always buzzing around, wearing himself out).
I feel really accomplished when I've exercised and it gives me an adrenaline rush something. It just feels good and I'm proud of myself for keeping it up for this long on my own. Not to mention the health benefits.
Well, I suppose that's all for now. Kiddos need lunch and I have lots of stuff to do before BF gets here in a few hours (yaaaaay)!
Until next time...
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